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08 June 2012

Not so friendly friends.

We have a bit of a tricky situation on our hands this summer. 

To make a long story short, we have kids in the neighborhood who used to come to our house to play that we can no longer allow to be on our property.  I will say this has to do with the parents and not at all the kids. 

It stinks. 

There are times as a parent that you have to make hard decisions to protect your family from liabilities.  This was not a decision we took lightly.  Ron & I spent many nights praying and discussing what to do. 

In all honesty, I had no idea how to handle this.  I'm still not sure I'm handling it well.

For the younger two, I simply told them that the kids aren't allowed to come over and play right now.  Surprisingly, they really didn't give me too much grief.  Josh, however, had a lot of questions and was really upset. 

We finally decided to tell him an abbreviated version of why they couldn't come over.  We sat him down and explained that their daddy had told some lies about our daddy and while he's still allowed to talk to them as they walk by and even invite them to church, they are not allowed to come play on our trampoline or swing set, or ride in the van with us because of this. 

It really stinks. 

Have you ever had issues with your kids and their friends?

I would love to hear how you handled it.

Don't forget to check out the other bloggers and see what they have to say:
Tracey at Building my House

Kathleen at Positive Adoption
Amery at Grace So Beautiful

Audrey at Everything Beautiful


Lori said...

I have....we have a lot of kids around the neighborhood. Some are not very nice and I don't allow them to come to the house...and we have another that only likes and plays with my kids when it's convenient for him. And the mom allows it. I don't agree with it and don't like seeing my kids get their feelings hurt when he is in the mood to not like them. I also see him play with other neighbors and go inside when mine come out..I never understand why. So I just tell the kids to stick around our house, but it's hard for them because they want to play and be nice to everyone (which is what I try to teach them).

Kathleen Guire said...

Perfect timing, I needed the encouragement. We have a situation in our neighborhood and we had to tell our kids they were not allowed to play with a child. Tough stuff.

Anonymous said...

I have had the same problems, with the kids friends who are only friends when they feel like it, or who are just down right mean to my kids,then you have to see them cry and feel awful, because you try to instill morals and values that not all parents teach their children. Then on top of that if your a homeschooling parent you have guilt, because your kids only have a limited amout of friends,and then they end up being kids like that. If you find a solution to the mean kid problem, or even the mean grown up problem I'd love to know what it is lol, in this world its hard not to get discourage when people who are suppose to be good, Christians friends, are just ugly to you or your children.